Rituals and Resolutions

Here we are in the last full week of 2015 – time once again to engage in that time-honored tradition of planning the resolutions that we’re going to break for 2016.

After you’ve been doing this for so many years, it sort of feels like that doesn’t it – a bad joke ensconced as a ritual. We make promises to ourselves (and the braver or less wise of us – that would be me – speak them out loud to others) about what we will accomplish, and we feel great about ourselves until we lose that self-satisfied glow when we abandon all hope of succeeding a month or so later.

That does seem to be the general rule, doesn’t it? Except for those chronic overachievers who actually stick to their guns and get it all done. The rest of us aren’t so sure we want to call those people friends – they aren’t honoring our traditional failure, but we should really give them credit for creating the plausible deniability we need (someone has to succeed so the rest of us don’t look like we’re just blowing smoke.)

I’ll admit it – I used to make resolutions with a wink-wink, nudge-nudge, and then go about maintaining the status quo. Until 4 or so years ago, when I got tired of bellyaching about not being able to find writing time and actually did something about it.

The first step is to admit you have a problem. The second step is to care enough to want to change.

Beware of what you choose to make resolutions about. I remember a story about Benjamin Franklin – a historically noted achiever. In his 20’s, Franklin created a list of twelve improvements he wanted to make in himself – virtues to live by. He showed the list to a friend, and the friend said it was a good list, but that he should add Humility, so Franklin did. When he died in his 80’s, he had achieved the original twelve, but Humility evaded him. Why? Because it wasn’t his idea, so he wasn’t invested in it. HE DIDN’T CARE ABOUT IT.

If you’re going to make a resolution, don’t do it just because someone else wants you to, or because you think it will impress others. Resolve to make changes YOU CARE ABOUT (if you don’t care, what’s the point?) And then make sure to announce your commitment to the world – it’s amazing how much the potential humiliation of failure can help keep you on track to achieving your goals (I know it works for me.)

Now if only I cared enough to do something about my extra weight…

Just saying…


Next in line for ePublication is “Behind the 8-Ball”:

The clock is running down as humanity struggles to find a new home; they’ve opened a gate into the unknown, but need evidence that their new world is on the other side before they go through. Moses can provide that proof, but how could anyone besides his wife believe him? Sometimes, you have to take a leap of faith.

Release date will be January 15th – preorders will begin soon.


William Mangieri’s writing, including his latest ePub “Finding Sanctuary”, can be found in many places, including:


His site on WordPress:

“William Mangieri’s Writing Page” on Facebook at:

His Goodreads author page:

Or on twitter: @WilliaMangieri


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